How “Call Me By Your Name” Defies The Norms Of Typical Love Affairs


In 2017, came a movie called “Call me by your name,” and it shook the audience through its loving ways. Every movie has a soul, and after a long time, I could feel the touch of that soul in this particular movie. It was not only about acting, the backdrop, or the sensuality. It was about purity amid the coming of age experiences of a young man.

I think the movie sends a strong message about parenting, in terms of how to reveal heartbreaks to your children while addressing their sexual identity and orientation. I always prefer movies who become more than just entertainment. Not many parents talk to their children about life in the way Elio’s father did and saved him from a lifetime of bad decisions and a cold heart. I would say people should watch the movie just for that conversation too. That scene was probably the reason that Call me by your name won the Oscar for Best Adapted Screenplay.

Elio’s sexual and romantic exploration of his life led to Oliver, a student of his father who comes to Italy to stay with them for a few weeks. He is in a sexually energized relationship with Marzia but develops urges for Oliver, to which he responds. Together they form a bond beyond the carnal desires of the flesh.

P.S. – My most favourite quote from the movie that shook my soul into an epiphany – ” We rip out so much of ourselves to be cured of things faster than we should that we go bankrupt by the age of thirty and have less to offer each time we start with someone new. But to make yourself feel nothing so as not to feel anything – what a waste!”